From a Dakota perspective, beautifully role-modeled by my beloved father ( A quality I am still working on), silence is seen as a profound form of wisdom, a reflection of a deep inner connection with Wakan Tanka, the Great Spirit. The Dakota teaching that "If possible, a silent tongue is the safest" acknowledges the sacred power of words, recognizing that they carry the potential to create harmony or discord. This understanding can be expressed in the Dakota language through woohitika, which signifies caution, bravery, and discernment in one's actions and speech.
Words, like arrows, once released, cannot be taken back. They hold the energy of our intentions, and when spoken without wisdom or care, they can cause harm even if well-intended. This is captured in the teaching, "Even good may be harmful if spoken at the wrong time or to the wrong person." The Dakota believe that timing, discernment, and woonspe (wisdom) guide the proper release of words. Just as one must know when to plant the sacred Waziya (pine) tree so that it grows strong and healthy, so too must one know when to speak and when to keep silent.
In Dakota tradition, silence is not merely the absence of speech but the presence of more profound listening, a form of spiritual alignment with the cycles of life. This silence, or waunsila (compassion), allows space for others' voices to emerge and for the truth to reveal itself. Silence reflects our responsibility (wopakinte) to the Human Family and Mother Earth, for we must think not only of ourselves but of the impact our words will have on future generations, the Seventh Generation.
Furthermore, the Dakota teaching of silence reminds us that not all truths are meant for all ears. Some teachings are sacred and must be protected, shared only with those who are spiritually ready to receive them. Oceti Sakowin, the Seven Council Fires, have long held this knowledge, understanding that certain wisdom must remain safeguarded within the hearts of the People, for words shared with those who lack understanding may distort or degrade their sacred meaning.
In this way, the teaching "If possible, a silent tongue is the safest" reflects the profound Dakota understanding that true wisdom comes not from speaking all that we know but from knowing when to remain silent, allowing the stillness to guide us, in harmony with Wakan Tanka.
Shunkmanu He Me Yedo! Chanupa Sapa He Me Yedo!
Hinhan Wicasa/Deloria Tiospaye, Ihanktowan, and Chickasaw Nations.
